LIFESTYLE
I’ve heard so many stories of people taking that leap of faith and going full throttle but they fail to tell you about the numerous struggles. I am already on the struggle train with trying to figure it ALL out so I don’t need the extra stress.
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It's officially summer and I am sure you have already planned your summer wardrobe of shorts, dresses and swimsuits. Have you thought about your skincare routine? I have! I live in Georgia and it gets extremely hot with the high temperatures and I like to keep my face looking fresh and clean.
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If you weren't aware consider this as your notification. Missouri recently passed a legislation to make it impossible to sue for housing and employment discrimination. According to The Associated Press, the new law is slated to take effect Aug. 28.
Read MoreI have been absent most of the month due to battling my allergies, traveling and planning for GirlChat events for the months ahead. GirlItsMel is almost 2 months old and I can not believe how times flies. It's has been a dream come true with many, many, many years in the making. Has it been easy? Heck no, nothing in life is easy. It has been challenging juggling work and my passion to allow them to coexist together. The look and feel of GirlItsMel has changed little by little each week with a few additions such as the GirlChatwithMel events page, the Shop and creating my youtube channel.
Here are a few things I've learning about myself since I've started this journey:
Success is not going to happen overnight. Patience is a virtue INDEED! People will come in due time.
Things do not always go as plan and there is no need to dwell on the negative, push forward and do what you can for NOW!
I always considered myself as introverted person and I was WRONG! I am both introverted and extroverted, I love meeting and talking with people. Speaking in large groups motivates me even than EVER. Having this platform has been a great conversation topic with women of all ages.
Networking is KEY! No one will not know who you are if you are not out promoting your brand. I have made a lot of connections with so many people and businesses that will help grow my brand.
Be HONEST! I had no clue on which direction I wanted to go with this site until I kept hearing the same stories being repeated by many women of different ethnic/age groups. Hence the birth of GIRL, IT'S MY EVERYDAY LIFE! (GirlItsMel).
Set a schedule, stick to it as much as possible. Consistency is KEY! Although I haven't published many posts I am grateful for social media sites (Instagram, Facebook and Twitter) to keep my audience engaged.
Step outside of your comfort zone and go for IT!
Be Yourself and Stay true to your brand! MOST IMPORTANT BE RELATEABLE!
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What are some things you learned about yourself recently?
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I can count on one hand the number of people I call a FRIEND. People use the term so loosely nowadays which makes it hard to determine if the other person really has your back or not. Practically anybody can be classified as friend whether it's the guy next door you occasionally have sex with or the receptionist at your workplace. Although it's nice to have people you can relate to and bond. When do you consider that connection as a friendship?
I know you may be able to relate to my story. I have never been the one to follow a crowd or be apart of a clique for popularity. This may be due to the introvert side of me who would rather be alone at times. Sometimes being in group can be complicated and girl code can be broken. Typically in these groups/cliques there is always the leader, the female who thinks she can do no wrong. She would be the one to organize all the activities and often she would be the loud one of them all. If she got mad with one of the girls then everyone must follow suit and not speak to that particular female. How awkward can that be to be told not talk to someone? If you are a kid that's expected but to be an adult is just ridiculous. I understand there is loyalty but why should your issue be my issue. Why do I need to inconvenience myself to please another grown ass woman?
The point is you shouldn't have to and often we feel the need to be apart of something whether it's healthy or not. Many of us may feel the need to have some sort of companionship to function. I'm OK with having my 1 or 2 females I considered a friend. A friend is someone you are able to cooperate with, trust and support. A friend is an individual who will listen to understand and most people lack this quality. A friend may even agree to disagree with you at times.
However; a friend will not coerce you into holding grudges, control your life by telling you who you should talk to or manipulate you into doing things that may have a detrimental effect on your life. Be weary of the ones who do not have your best interest at heart. You always want to surround yourself with positive-liked individuals and avoid getting sucked into the "clique" zone because you want to feel accepted.
I want to hear from you. Does being in a group/clique make you feel included or not?
XOMelissa
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